Bullet Journaling for Health

Taylor Miller's Bullet Journal Tracker/Buzzfeed
Taylor Miller’s Bullet Journal Tracker/Buzzfeed

Like so many others, I have jumped upon the Bullet Journal train. I started my BuJo (what die-hard fans call it) last year as a means of keeping art in my life while organizing the juggling of appointments, grad school, and managing a household. I’ve found my bullet journal to be the best way to be consistent in planning, because the blank pages provide a means for me to pick up where I left off and I can create the system I need when I need it rather than be locked into a planner with irrelevant trackers, boxes that are too small, and dates that are unforgiving if I take a month or two off (nothing is more demotivating than skimming through dozens of blank pages to get to today’s date – it just feels so wasteful!)

What we all call the Bullet Journal was created by Ryder Carroll and is a plain, streamlined system for organizing your life. You can read more about it here, as well as check out guest posts from Bujo fans who have gone to a whole other place in creatively organizing their lives.

This post is specifically regarding using a bullet journal for tracking your health. I use my own bullet journal to plan meals and track my supplements, exercise, coffee consumption, and any dietary tweaks I am focusing on at any given time. This allows me to stay connected to whether or not my supplement regimen needs tweaking, prevents me from becoming over-caffeinated, and note the effects of any dietary changes I am making.
Others use it to track medical symptoms, mood, keep a food log, or organize meal planning and medication schedules. The great thing about a Bullet Journal is it is tailored to you and your needs, and is effortless to change as your needs change. You don’t need a new journal – you simply need to turn the page and shift your focus!

Here are some samples of what can be done with a Bullet Journal:

Keep self-care options on hand for when you need them but are too frazzled to recall what works (photo@thebulletjournaladdict.com)
Keep self-care options on hand for when you need them but are too frazzled to recall what works. (photo@thebulletjournaladdict.com)

 

Track all your healthy habits to stay on top of your goals! Photo @bossgirlbujo/Instagram
Track all your healthy habits to stay on top of your goals! Photo @bossgirlbujo/Instagram

 

Sublimereflection.com has nailed weekly meal planning with this template!
Sublimereflection.com has nailed weekly meal planning with this template!

 

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Track meds, medical conditions and symptoms. credit to @illustratedgrey-Via-instagram.com

 

Stay on task with a healthy eating challenge like Whole30 or an Allergy Elimination Diet! credit @ashleytakestheworld/Instagram
Stay on task with a healthy eating challenge like Whole30 or an Allergy Elimination Diet!
credit @ashleytakestheworld/via Instagram

Do you Bullet Journal? What are some things you are tracking in your life these days? If you are curious about Bullet Journaling for health let me know and I’ll happily share more posts on the topic!

Wild Rose Honey and Rose Scented Body Oil

Last week we went camping for the first time this year. Our Squish (who isn’t so little and Squishy anymore!) had a terrible camping experience last fall and we have been hesitant to go out again. Thankfully he had a GREAT time playing and sleeping in his outdoor “Ohm”.

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While we were out we stumbled upon hundreds of wild rose that were blooming. An herbalist was picking rosebuds to dry and use in her skin care preparations. I decided to take a page out of her book and harvest some petals of my own, uncertain of what exactly I would do with them. I decided to use the bulk of my rose petals for a rose infused honey that I will drizzle on soft cheeses, rub on pork before broiling or grilling, and give away to friends and family this holiday season. With the remainder I had I made a rose infused oil for homemade chapstick or salves (or a moisturizer if I get lazy) and I had just enough left to dry for future use in an herbal tea blend!

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32 oz. raw honey (preferably local to your area)*
1 sandwich baggie filled with wild rose petals and buds
Loosely fill jars with rose petals, gently crushing them in your fingers to release oils. Cover with honey, stirring to get the extra air out. Seal and let sit, turning occasionally, for a minimum of 4 days.

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Rose Body Oil

About 2 cups of rose petals
Pour the rose petals into the jar, mashing them gently to release oils.  Cover with apricot oil. Let sit in a cool, dark, place for 4 weeks (shaking occasionally) before straining for use in body care products or as a moisturizer.

 

 

 

*Commercial honey is pasteurized and filtered so fine that no pollen remains. Given that the FDA identifies honey as having pollen in it, can it even be called honey at that point? Sometimes it is also diluted with corn syrup, imported from China, and otherwise not the healing, healthy food you’ve read about. All enzymes and vitamins have been destroyed.

**Apricot oil is derived from the pit of apricots. It is a light oil that makes skin velvety soft. It’s great to apply upon dry, parched skin and won’t feel heavy or greasy when used topically, making it a favorite of massage therapists. It can also be used in hair as a hot oil treatment.

Resources:

Learn more about commercial honey here: http://www.motherearthnews.com/real-food/comparing-commercial-and-locally-produced-raw-honey-zbcz1412.aspx

 

How to Run a Marathon and Not be sore the next day

1) Train appropriately for the course: No amount of prevention matters as much as this. My very first marathon I did everything by the book – ate right, did a long run of 22 miles, had weekly massages, stretched diligently…but I did all my training on a pancake flat trail for a course that ended up being about 50% rolling hills. To say I was sore was an understatement; I felt as though my quads were thrown in a Cuisinart and then shoved back into my skin!That rookie mistake had me hobbling around for a full week. It was a mistake I only made once, so you don’t have to.

2) Refuel immediately afterward: when you cross the finish line your cells are clamoring for fuel. They are best primed to receive nourishment within 45 minutes of a workout, so have something on hand that has protein, carbohydrates, and antioxidants to pump those cells up with the nutrition they need to repair damaged muscle tissue. I often have a coconut water based smoothie with protein powder after my hard runs. Bonus: this one action will typically give you enough energy to prevent crashing later in the day!

3) Stay hydrated: your body needs water to flush out lactic acid and other metabolites from your hard work as well as bring in nutrients to restore. Staying hydrated ensures there’s enough liquid material to accomplish hundreds of metabolic reactions that require water to do these tasks.

4) Ice bath. The notorious ice bath. Dreaded by all runners – until you have one. Here’s my super secret squirrel method to the ice bath that takes the edge off and makes it *almost* enjoyable.

5) Massage: schedule a massage 24-72 hours after your race. Any initial inflammation will go down and the extra stretching and massaging will help the body heal and repair itself. This also helps prevent muscular imbalances from leading to injury as you continue training for your next event.

6) Sleep: sleep is when we do most of our healing. Get a good night’s sleep after your race and you will be setting yourself up for a quicker recovery! Post-race naps are also well earned!

 

These are tips that I use regularly and have used with all my runners over the last ten years to help them cross the finish line and have the energy and recovery to allow them to take care of kids, get back to work, and avoid injury. Give them a try and see how they work for you!

How to have a kick-ass 2016

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I knew that having a child was going to provide ample distractions and make it challenging to stay focused. That said, I didn’t fully realize the magnitude of perpetual disruption on how connected I would feel to myself and my life’s path. It’s taken two years, but I am finally refocusing and recentering myself for this coming year. For me, it will be a year of reclaiming myself independent of my role as a mother and integrating Mother with Self so that I can operate from a more authentic place and honor who I am in this next phase of my life. While my clients have demonstrated the difficulty of self-care in the face of motherhood, I now understand it at a much more profound level than I did pre-parent and am even more committed to helping mothers reconnect to themselves so they can have a fulfilling life.

This plan is a work in progress, but I invite you to join me in taking the time to do this important work. I would love to hear from you throughout the year on how it is going, what you are discovering and what works and what doesn’t. You can share by commenting below or by sending me an email. I will be sharing my experiences here throughout the year as well.

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STEP ONE: Get clear on your intention for the year. 

This is best done not as a goal, but as an essence. As I had no clear sense of what direction I wanted to go earlier this month I went back to an exercise that has been very helpful to me in the past: Jade Teta’s Totem Word exercise. This exercise reliably brings me back to my values and core mission for my life whenever I lose sight of it.

 

STEP TWO: Make It Juicy!


Leonie Dawson
is a goddess of Juicy Living. Her niche is helping hippie artist-types find success in their artistic passions, but her messages and products are really useful for anyone
in business or those wanting to bring more creative, right-brained habits to life. This year I am using her 2016 Create Your Shining Year in Life to outline what I want more of and how I am going to get there. This notebook begs for markers, stickers, collaging, and play; something I am betting most of us can benefit from! [Tweet “WARNING: if you hate hippies or are especially allergic to Woo-Woo types this may not be for you.”] Leonie can push my woo-woo tolerance but her message is really grounded and practical and has always benefitted me when I have utilized any of her programs or products. While starting the workbook at the new year gives you the most time to get results, the reality is you can pick up this workbook at any time of the year and use it as a tool for clarifying, outlining and planning the next phase of your life (or business if you get the business workbook)

STEP THREE: Record it where you’ll see it daily!

I’ve started using a passion planner and am really enjoying it as a resource for tracking my actions that are connected to my overall intention for the year. At the beginning of the planner are some exercises to help you get focused on your year ahead so you have a reminder on hand daily. The planner itself offers a weekly focus, space for notes, to-do lists, and quotes and challenges to keep you connected and growing. You can check out these planners at passionplanner.com

Inside of the Passion Planner, available at Passionplanner.com

I’m also trying a new service this year, “One Little Word”. I’ll be getting monthly writing prompts on the word that I have chosen to serve as my totem word for 2016. I believe there will be some opportunity for crafting as well, which is something that I have wanted more practice with all of my adulthood.

What are your big aims for 2016? I would love to hear your totem word or intention for this coming year!

Calgon Ain’t Got Nuthin’ on THIS!

I love luxurious herbal baths. I rarely take them, and since becoming a mother I can count the amount of times I’ve had one easily on one hand. Lately I’ve been speaking to a friend of mine who is a radical self-care devotee and uber-fan of what she refers to as ‘tubbie’ time.  She has inspired me to find some herbal bath recipes to test and share with her for her birthday at the end of this month.

 

(SHHHHH! Don’t tell!)

 

Soothing Softening Milk Bath

Milk contains lactic acid, which helps to exfolate skin. Lavender comes in to provide post-workweek decompression and the cornstarch is added to make the water silky smooth and also soothe skin.

 

  • 1 cup dry milk
  • 1/2 cup cornstarch
  • 1/4 cup lavender sprigs

Combine all in a decorative jar and use after a rough day to promote relaxation and sleep. Makes one bath.

Romantic Rose Bath

Rose is traditionally used to tonify and soften skin. Almond oil is also a great moisturizer and the vinegar exfoliates and reportedly neutralizes the water pH to prevent skin irritation from the essential oils.

  • 3 drops rose essential oil
  • 1 tbsp. sweet almond oil
  • 1/4 cup rose water
  • 2 tbsp. apple cider vinegar
  • 1 handful dried rose petals

Add rose petals to the bottom of a pretty glass jar. Add oils and stir with a chopstick to blend. Top with rosewater and vinegar and shake well. makes one bath.

 

Best Health Apps of 2012

Sleep Cycle – This iPhone app sounds amazing! It actually monitors your movement and uses this data to determine an appropriate time to wake you so you are not in deep sleep. I’ve heard first hand accounts of its effectiveness, and is very highly rated. To learn more, and purchase this app, click here.

Android users do not have this app available, but Sleep as Android is available. I downloaded the trial of this app and tested it out – it very effectively measures movement in the bed as an indicator of depth of sleep. Data collected showed what percentage of my sleep was ‘deep sleep’, the average amount of sleep debt I accumulated each night as well as total sleep debt during the course of the trial. Using this app I discovered that some reliable, consistent factors that were inhibiting sleep and used the data to make some changes. There is now an add-on for $1.79 that is called Sleep Stats and has more in-depth tracking as well as advice to gain more deep sleep. Well worth checking out if this is a concern for you.

my Fitness Pal – I hate calorie counters. Like nearly all other food trackers, My Fitness Pal focuses in on the archaic “calories in, calories out” model (which is really dieting and which we all know doesn’t work). This is the most comprehensive app I have found, however, for tracking food intake, water and exercise intake. What I would LOVE to see is the ability to adjust the nutritent ratios on the app so that I can focus more on protein and carbohydrates rather than calories. The only reason I was compelled to download this to test it out is the scanner option that allows you to scan the barcode of that food bar or box of cookies you just picked up to add it to your daily food log. That saves oodles of time searching through a comprehensive database on the phone, and consequently makes this app a winner. My advice: log your food, water and exercise as a tracker, ignore the calorie warnings, and use the info you gather to meet your goals. By clicking on the “daily” assessment you can take a look at a pie chart which gives you a breakdown of your protein, carbohydrate and fat intake by percentages, which I find much more useful. Because the app syncs with an online site, you have the ability to use the information from your PC and laptop as well as print out your logs. Click here to download MyFitnessPal for an Android phone, and click here to download it to your iPhone

Out of Milk – I am using this all the time – I can keep track of what’s in my pantry, what I need to purchase, AND create additional lists – to do lists for business, restaurants to try out, movies to see, etc. The big sell on this is you can scan the barcode of an empty box to add it to your shopping list AND sync your list with your partner’s or email it to him or her so that you both don’t go to the store and double up, or you can make sure everything on the grocery list gets purchased! There is also an option to set reminder alarms for those items on the list, move things between lists, and see what you previously had on your grocery list so you have a running idea of frequent purchases, as well as their cost. Price: FREE, with $1.99 for an upgrade that allows online syncing and back-up, list sharing on multiple devices, and a coupon tracker. Out of Milk is free, then click here to upgrade to Out of Milk Pro for Android users. Apple users, fret not – Out of Milk is developing an iPhone app; in fact, they are looking for beta testers if you want to be one!

Period Tracker – I have been using this app for over a year, and can subsequently geek out on knowing the exact day and length of my menstrual cycle. This tracker also allows you to log mood changes and PMS symptoms, weight, and body temperature and uses the last three cycles to fairly accurately determine your upcoming cycle date. This is PERFECT for what I call “PMS amnesia”, or that time of the month when you don’t know why you’re so cranky and irritable and sensitive…until you know EXACTLY why. 😉 It is also an excellent tool to monitor your fertility to prevent or facilitate pregnancy.

Back in the day, when we just had calendars, my mom taught me to track my cycle by putting little flowers on the calendar when my cycle began. Seeing the flowers bloom on this app reminds me a little of that, and endears me to this app even more. My only request of Period Tracker: that it also track the lunar cycle so women can begin to see how the lunar cycle corresponds to their own menstrual cycle. Click here to download Period Tracker on the ‘droid for free and click here to download it from iTunes!

There are tens of thousands of health apps on the market now – these are just a few I have come across that I believe offer great value and have proven useful to me personally. What are YOUR favorite health apps? I’d love to hear what else is out there, especially for iPhone users, since I have less exposure to those apps. Comment below and share which apps you find most useful!

Don’t Let Stress Make You Fat!


When you’re under stress, it is harder to eat healthier. You may find yourself eating high calorie foods at a time when you’re stressed and may not even be hungry. Much of this stems from the hormonal response internally – stress hormones ramp up the urge for cravings as a means of self-medication. Salty, crunchy or chewy snacks relieve stress by working the jaw and bringing a sense of focus; creamy and sweet snacks relax and soothe the senses through the release of serotonin and other calming neurotransmitters. The stress of overwhelm and multiple choices taxes the brain and actually consumes a great deal of glucose, which can lead to cravings as well.

How can you fix the weight gain during stress? It is ESSENTIAL to get a handle on the stress. When you decrease the stress, you will feel back to your old self and find it easier to eat healthier and have better exercise habits. Things which set you off or feel too hard now will suddenly, effortlessly, become far more manageable.

When you feel stress increasing, take some time to lessen the stress. Go for a walk, go to bed early, unwind with a good book or a hot bath. TV and computer does NOT soothe the body, and can exacerbate insomnia and other physical stressors. Yoga is a powerful way to relieve stress in the body as well. Take a yoga class after work to let go of your day, or tackle stress with yoga in your own home!

Bridge pose. This is designed to calm the brain, rejuvenate tired legs and relieve spinal tension.

How: Lie on your back with your feet hip-width apart and flat on the ground. Press down with your feet; lift your glutes, hips, pelvis and back off the ground. Keeping your arms flat, with your shoulders on the floor, lock your fingers under your glutes. Inhale and exhale.

Standing forward bend. This stretches tight hamstrings and relieves tension in the hips and lower back.
How: Stand straight, feet hip-distance apart. Exhale and bend, bringing the crown of your head toward the ground. You’re far enough when your hamstrings are stretched, but not tight. Put your right hand on your left elbow; release and switch.

Yoga is already a great way to de-stress but not the only thing you can do. Here are three more ways that can you take your body back and get rid of the stress.

• Physical activity at your local gym. Check if they have drop in classes for kick boxing, boot camp or another high- intensity class, especially if you feel wired and ramped up.

• Sleep: are you getting your 8 hours? If not, sleep is the most important piece to help with your stress.

• Don’t skip meals, especially breakfast.

It’s your body and your life – don’t let stress take it over! What is one way you will nourish your body to reduce your stress today?

Finding Easy Ways to Be More Active

Many people look at their daily schedule and find it impossible to fit in a trip to the gym.  But, this doesn’t mean you have to shrug off exercise all together!  Fitness is so much more than treadmills and weight training; fitness is about finding ways to move your body.

Here are some ways that you can work more healthy movement into your schedule:

1. Add Some Steps to Your Morning: If you take public transportation to work, plan to get off one stop early and walk the rest of the way.  This extra bit of walking in the morning will help get your blood pumping and mind clear for the day ahead.  If you drive, choose to park further away rather than finding a spot right up by the door. 

2. Lunch-break Love:   Take some time for you on your lunch break.  Pack yourself a healthy brown bag lunch and step outside.  Take a quick stroll around your building or to the nearest park and have a breath of fresh air while you eat.  This will also refresh you and help prevent the mid-afternoon slump. Alternatively, you can pull off an exit during rush hour and wait out the worst of it by going for a walk (I’ve done this a few times myself – makes the commute home much nicer!)

3. Choose to Move:  Next time you are making plans for a girl’s night out, why not suggest something new?  Check out a local fitness class (Groupon can be great for these), take in some hot yoga, or even opt for a night out dancing.  If you are a Mom, next time you take your kids to the park, don’t simply sit on the bench responding to emails on your phone.  Instead, get up from the bench and run with them – let yourself feel like a kid again.  It will be worth it for both you AND them!

4. Find a Fitness Buddy: The best thing you could ever do for yourself is to find accountability outside yourself. As social animals, humans work best in collaborative community.  Find yourself someone that you can be honest with about your goals and desires.  Make sure they are someone who will challenge you to reach for them and encourage you when you may fall short from time to time.

These are some simple way to bring for movement and fitness into your life.  What are some ideas you have to find effortless ways to move your body?

How to Kill those Night Time Cravings

“I do fine all day,” say many of my clients when we first speak. “It’s after dinner that I run into trouble.”

Sound familiar?

Evening cravings are the biggest saboteur I see among my clients. At the end of the day, we are tired, run down, and want a treat.

The child that still lives within each of us whines and begs and it’s often just easier to cave in and have a second glass of wine, too much ice cream, or several handfuls of tortilla chips.

“I have no willpower,” my clients will say to me.I disagree.

 

Cravings surface not because we lack willpower, but because we haven’t planned well in advance or because there are very real needs that are not being met. To truly address and conquer cravings, one must take a mind-body-spirit approach to them: educate yourself on the causes of your cravings, address any physical issues (low blood sugar, lack of sleep, food intolerances), and look at the emotional root of your trigger foods.

The biggest source of food cravings I see are improper food choices earlier in the day and a build-up of stress that leads to succumbing to temptations in the evening. I’m not one to white-knuckle my way through a massive craving, and I don’t believe you should either. That’s no way to live life!

Here are some very real steps you can implement to nip your cravings in the bud:

  • Look at your diet: are you eating regularly or are you going more than 3 hours between meals or snacks? Having low blood sugar earlier in the day can set us up to compensate by rummaging in the pantry after dinner. Also consider the possibility the foods you are choosing – whether or not they are healthy – may not be the right foods for you.
  • Look for patterns of stressors and rewards. Often we deprive and deny ourselves during the day – both with food choices AND with saying ‘Yes’ to too many people, or by taking on too much. If you give and give and give all day you are going to want to receive at the end of it to restore yourself. Often the cycle is to emotionally shut down in front of the TV or internet and reward oneself with wine or sweets. Where can you adjust your choices during the day so you are not so depleted at the end of it? What can you do (or not do) to increase your joy?
  • If there really WAS a little boy or girl living inside of you, what would s/he need? Is there an alternative to what you are choosing that is healthier and just as satisfying, or even more so? Watch your inner dialogue as well. Always aim to have the same dialogue with yourself that you would want to hear from an ideal parent or close friend.

Which parenting style most closesly resembles YOUR inner dialogue?

Managing and eliminating cravings begins with understanding and is facilitated with an effective plan of attack.  Look again at the above list – do you see one way to conquer your cravings right away? What step(s) will you implement today?

Are you a Tasmanian Devil, an Ostrich, a Squirrel, a Donkey or an Elephant?

We don’t get through life without having a few good ‘A-ha’ or ‘Come to Jesus’ moments. Sometimes it’s little things, like the first time the bagger at the grocery store calls you “Ma’am” or you realize you aren’t being carded at Happy Hour anymore. Sometimes they are whoppers – like the realization that your marriage is not going to work, that the person you’ve become was the very person you feared of becoming, or that your job is actually the very thing that is making you ill.

There are many responses to these moments of what Laurel Mellin refers to as “essential pains”. An essential pain is that moment when you face the fact, see what is, and have a negative response to it. That pain piece is usually because we have attachments to things which are at odds with what is directly in front of us.

“I thought we would be together forever.”

“I told myself I’d never get above 180, and look at where I am!”

“I let him hit me because I believe I’m not worth better than this.”

“Oh look, here I am again eating leftovers at 2am! WHY DO I KEEP DOING THIS?!?!”

 

A lot of times, our impulse is to get angry, and like the Tasmanian Devil from the Warner Brothers cartoons, we become outwardly destructive with others in our frustration or take that anger inward and beat ourselves mightily for our mistake. If the pain feels like it is more than we can deal with we may turn around like a squirrel and skitter off in the opposite direction or refuse to do anything but stand there, immobilized like a donkey. Sometimes we turn to denial and try and forget by sticking our head in the sand like an ostrich and pretending nothing was discovered.

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The discomfort we call pain can be a powerful motivator, if we know what to do with it. It’s what brings most people to my door – a realization and a tipping point where they are ready to make different choices for themselves, but aren’t sure quite how.

There can be a long valley between the realization and the action, but I have found personally that the following tips, practiced over time,  turn that valley into a small crack in the soil that you can very easily step across.

  • Ask, “what is the unreasonable expectation here?” This comes straight from “The Pathway” by Laurel Mellin, a fantastic book with very clear steps to unite the logical mind with the more tumultuous emotional mind. It was very helpful for me in allowing myself to experience anger and in working with my emotional eating. Knowing that pain is caused by a refusal to accept what is, we can then surmise that we have an obstacle to what is – an expectation that is not reasonable, given the current circumstances. Keep in mind, it needn’t be logical or rational, it is what it is. Examples: “I have an unreasonable expectation that I can neglect to eat all day and have willpower at night.” “I have an unreasonable expectation that I should stay in this relationship because he needs someone to love him and I’m the only one.” “I believe that I deserve these donuts because I had a bad day, and I keep telling myself that even though they make me feel worse…oh wow, I believe I deserve to feel bad.” “I believe if I say ‘No’ that makes me a bad person.”

Knowing our unreasonable expectations gives us awareness to where we are at odds so that we can make changes. Sometimes these awarenesses are as painful, or moreso, than the actual discomfort. It is very hard for rabbits and ostriches to stay engaged if this happens. I tend to be donkey-like (this stems from perfectionist tendencies – if I make a move, I have to make sure it is the right one! Otherwise – DON’T DO A THING.) and have spent months in paralysis while letting go of what my Ego told me I needed to be in order to be loved and accepted in the world. This is where the second tool comes in:

 

  • Cultivate Compassion.

 

This is what turns the ostrich into the elephant (funny analogy, no?). It is going a layer deeper and forgiving ourselves for our mistakes and bad choices. It is the top layer of our Ego that has adopted the unreasonable expectation, but the layer underneath that which tells a story of ‘knowing better’ or ‘deserving it’ or whatever excuse we use to keep us stuck is Ego as well. When I say Ego, I refer to the adopted and created stories we tell ourselves about who we are, what we should/shouldn’t do, etc. It contains both healthy and unhealthy beliefs about ourselves, who we are, and how the world works, though in this instance I refer to the latter aspects of Ego.

Here are some simple tools to bring yourself compassion:

  • Remember – you ALWAYS do the best you can in any given situation, with what you know and what you have at your disposal.
  • What would someone who loves and cares for you unconditionally say to you about this situation?
  • What would you tell a close friend or small child about this situation?

 

When we are living in a state of compassion and awareness of our past choices and their contribution to the present, it is usually easy to make a change. The drama and the story is gone and it becomes about making a course correction in your life to get to where you want to be. When we let go of shame and anger and “shoulding” all over ourselves the answers often appear very easily and readily, making action clear and decisive.  We move like the elephant, unobstructed by a crack in the soil or a dense thicket because we embody our grandness and our ability to move through what is in the way. We pull our head out of the snow and continue the journey towards Happiness, which is our true home.